Why I’ll Tell My Daughter About My Miscarriage — And Why It Matters at Work Too

The Question That Changed Everything

“Will you tell your child about your miscarriage?”

I’ve thought long and hard about this. In many cultures, including within my own South Asian community, grief, particularly reproductive grief, is seen as shameful.

I know that one day, my daughter might ask, “Mum, was I your first pregnancy?” And I’ll tell her the truth.

Not to burden her but to break the silence that generations before me were asked to carry. Not only that though, to show her that love and loss can coexist. Not only that though, that while we are so grateful for her existence in our lives, her presence doesn’t take away from the grief of pregnancy loss — and that grief? It doesn’t have to be banished, hidden away or live in the shadows.

Miscarriage Is Common — So Why Don’t We Talk About It at Work?

Key stat: 1 in 4 pregnancies ends in miscarriage.

And yet, in most workplaces, reproductive loss remains invisible.

For employees, this silence can feel suffocating. It means:

- No time to grieve without fear of being seen as “too emotional”

- No space to speak without judgment or misunderstanding

- No support systems in place that acknowledge emotional recovery


We spend a third of our lives at work. And yet, we’re still taught to compartmentalise this deeply human experience.

Breaking the Silence in the Workplace

If we’re serious about wellbeing, mental health, and inclusive leadership, we must start naming reproductive grief at work.

This includes:


- Recognising miscarriage and pregnancy loss as legitimate grief


- Offering flexible leave policies or reproductive loss support


- Encouraging leadership to model emotional intelligence


- Creating psychologically safe cultures where honesty isn’t punished

These aren’t “nice-to-haves”, they’re part of building equitable and emotionally healthy organisations.

Breathwork, Healing, and Reclaiming Space

As a certified breathwork facilitator, trauma-informed coach, and maternal wellbeing speaker, I work with individuals and companies to support emotional regulation through tools like breathwork, not just for stress, but for grief. These ancient, accessible techniques, grounded in Eastern traditions are now being explored in peer-reviewed Western research as powerful somatic tools for trauma, loss, and nervous system regulation.

Grief doesn’t disappear when you walk into an office. But with the right support, it doesn’t have to stay hidden either.

What Telling My Daughter Will Teach Her

Telling my daughter about my miscarriage won’t make her sad.
 It will teach her that:

- Vulnerability is strength

- Grief is not taboo

- Emotional honesty is generational healing


Reproductive loss affects more people than we think.
It’s time to bring that truth with care and compassion into our homes, and into our workplaces.